If listening to others is a skill, listening to myself has been a lifelong lesson.
For most of my life, I’ve been a quick decision-maker. I know when something feels right. I know when it doesn’t. My intuition speaks fast and clear — but that doesn’t mean I always listen. Sometimes I override it with logic. Sometimes I delay it with “just give it three more months.” Sometimes I judge myself for what I know to be true.
We Are All Intuitive
As Roxanne reminds us in the podcast, we are all born intuitive. Every one of us. But life — family, culture, expectations, fear — can push that intuition into the background.
Reconnecting with it requires silence.
Roxanne reminded me that “listen” and “silent” share the same letters. You can’t hear yourself if you never stop filling the space. And in a world of constant noise — kids, work, to‑do lists, smartphones, scrolling — silence can feel almost foreign.
In Order to Listen, You Must be Quiet
Over the last few months, I’ve been building a daily meditation practice as part of my coaching certification. It’s been transformative. When I sit in silence, ideas come. Clarity comes. The podcast flows more naturally. I’m not forcing anything — I’m receiving it. It feels like opening a window I didn’t realize had been closed.
Roxanne talked about how intuition often shows up in the body before the mind. A softening. An exhale. A release. Or, on the other side, a tightening, a clench, a held breath. Learning to recognize those signals is part of rebuilding trust with ourselves.
And trust is the key word here.
Just like teams need trust to communicate honestly, we need to trust ourselves to and lean in. When we ignore our intuition — especially in big moments like a new job or a major life decision — we usually end up circling back to the truth we felt on day one. I’ve lived that. Roxanne has lived that. Most of us have.
The hardest part isn’t hearing the intuition. It’s honoring it.
Choose Alignment Over Approval
We must continue to choose alignment over approval. It’s letting go of the fear of being wrong, or judged, or misunderstood. It’s giving ourselves grace when a decision doesn’t work out the way we hoped. It’s trusting that even the messy parts are part of the learning.
This conversation reminded me that listening to myself is not indulgent — it’s essential. It’s how I stay aligned. It’s how I lead. It’s how I parent. It’s how I create. It’s how I live a life that feels like mine.
And like any skill, it gets stronger with practice.
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